Understanding in a relationship..

Ok guys, You believe you are in for each other, so you start this relationship! We have seen that in order to cherish that love or to make it a healthy relationship we have our 5 basic factors that are bases to such kind of a relationship.

We started with honest, proper and committed communication relationship as the most important of all. Today let’s move to the 2^nd one, UNDERSTANDING, also a very important one!

Relationship is like sand held in your hand, held loosely and openly, the sand remains where it is. The minute one tries to close hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand simply trickles through the fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is exactly like that.

Accepting others with open mind and clear vision keeping mutual understanding in between, relationship prospers. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly or too possessively the relationship slips away and is lost.

Most relationships which turn unsuccessful and result in break ups, divorces and separations are due to the reasons that, with passage of time communication between partners becomes less, misunderstandings develop and understanding of the core issues is somewhat diverged.

Spending and giving less time to personal life may also be considered as one of the factious causes of relationship break ups. In today's fast moving life sharing proper time with family and relatives is becoming quite a problem.

The biggest challenge in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you plan your relationship as a giver rather than just a taker.

Divorces and breakups leave a very nagging effect on particular person's health; mental disturbances occur. Old memories of past relations start haunting and result in low self esteem, lost self confidence, tensions and other related issues.

It is very difficult to overcome and cope up with such a situation. One becomes wary of the situation and is afraid to get into another relationship. Even working ability of certain people is reduced and changes from constructive to destructive manner and causes disruption of normal life.

Understanding…

The thing that makes “understanding” so difficult is that it requires us to be willing to listen and understand the position of someone that we do not agree with. We don’t have to agree with them, just listen. Perhaps, through civility, there can emerge a mutual understanding of how each person has come to believe what they believe… even if, in the end, they still do not agree with each other.

So before you are faced with such a misfortune take time to get to know and understand each other’s better, getting to know the strength and weaknesses of your spouse and how better to cope with them.

We meet tomorrow on the 3rd factor...TRUST!