Age difference between couples..

Let us start with some real life examples from various people testimonies below:

1. Irrelevant in my opinion!

I have dated men ranging from 10 years younger than me to 19 years older than me in my lifetime. I married a man who is 2 years younger than me, and we get along beautifully, but I don't think it has anything to do with age. Relationships are truly two people coming together who have common interests, common goals, common family values, etc. with enough differences to keep it interesting! Relationships are what you make them, and it doesn't matter how old either party is, in my own opinion. Looking at Anna Nicole and the oil millionaire, well, I often wondered what they had in common, but who am I to judge them? We all have soul-mates, and I truly believe the man upstairs is the one who knows what and/or who is best suited for us...as long as two people enjoy one another, who are we to judge? Age is just a number...

2. It still depends on the people.

The two couples I know that have been together longest have age differences that you would think would cause problems. The first has the wife being five years older than her husband and the second the husband is 15 years older than his wife. I got married late and am 15 years older than my wife and we will be celebrating our ten next year. I believe that is longer than most marriages last these days. Age is only one factor in the success of a marriage. Communication and humour help a lot.

3. It depends on the psychological makeup of the individual.

I've heard that marriages of great age difference tend to run in families, but I can't find anything to back that up, and it certainly wasn't true in my own family. My father was 21 years older than my mother (and still lived long enough to have a golden anniversary), yet my sisters and I married men much closer to our own ages. It was interesting to watch my daughter, the quintessential alpha female. All of her boyfriends, and eventually the one she married, were somewhat younger than she, because she has a psychological need to be the dominant person and to call the shots. In a sense, I think it is irrelevant, because we are all unique individuals with our own distinct notions of what we want from a relationship. That allows for a wide range of couplings, and who's to say what is right or wrong in affairs of the heart?

4. You may be familiar with the old folk-wisdom formula A woman should be one-half the man's age plus seven years. I think perhaps this was calculated by a man, because by seventy you're dating someone who is 42, which is pretty much reaching down into the previous generation. In actuality, I don't think age difference matters much as long as the two people are truly compatible. I actually knew someone once who had married his daughter's best friend from high school. This was after she had graduated. But she was the same age as his daughter. The daughter seemed fine with the arrangement, as did the wife. The husband was a retired Marine. Most of the guys I knew felt he must be the luckiest man in the world. He was much older than us at the time, but most of us would have felt the woman was too young for US! The most important consideration I think is that if the age difference is great, and usually in these cases it is the man who is older, that if you plan to have children you must consider the probability that you will die or become incapacitated before the children reach maturity. I believe this is something that a couple in this situation should talk over carefully and thoroughly. HAVING SEEN REAL LIFE EXAMPLES ABOVE, HERE ARE SOME FACTS ABOUT AGE DIFFERENCE? As defined by society, the practice of men preferring to marry younger women and women preferring older men has been in existence since the concept of matrimonial alliance itself came into existence. What has changed over the years though, is the age difference between husband and wife. More recently, women seem to prefer marrying highly successful men, who are considerably older than these women. Average Age Difference in Marriage over the Years A look at the statistical data compiled over the last century suggests that the age difference in a matrimonial alliance has been constantly changing owing to several underlying factors. This reversal in the average age difference for marriage was attributed to factors such as education, women becoming more and more independent, better contraception, etc. Today, things have changed considerably as both men and women are giving their career first priority, thus, making matrimonial alliance take a back seat. Does it affect the Marriage? New trends also suggest a drastic age difference in married couples, which can be as much as 15 years, today. The best example of this is the rising number of celebrity couples who are getting into matrimonial alliances despite the significant difference in their age. The bad part, though, is that the age difference in relationships can result in a wide range of marital problems. Some of the most common problems which can be attributed to extreme difference in age include lack of understanding, infidelity, sex drive disparity, financial problems, etc. A closer look and one would realize that all these problems are related to each other, either directly or indirectly.  For instance, generation gap can result in lack of understanding between the two partners and this may result in either of the partners finding solace with a third person, thus, leading to infidelity. So what should be the Ideal Difference? Ideally, the age difference between two people getting into a matrimonial alliance should be somewhere between 5 - 10 years. Basically, one has to take into consideration the fact that men attain maturity late as compared to women, which implies that men need more time to get accustomed to the responsibilities associated with a family. Marrying late also gives men enough time to get set with their career. Even though women seem to prefer getting married late so that they get enough time to fulfil their ambitions on the career front, they need to be careful as opting for marriage too late can affect the biological cycle and result in medical complications when having children in the future. Even though there are examples of happily married couples with a significant age difference, the number of such examples is considerably low. Interestingly, the same rule of the thumb applies in case of a situation, wherein a woman marries a man younger to her. However, in the end, these are merely numbers and to make any marriage work, one needs to put in a genuine amount of effort so as to ensure that the marriage is a long and happy one. Let's keep learning...

Why Men Cheat..?

#1 – Needs

If cheating reasons could be classified, needs would probably be the most unpleasant one. It leaves both the cheated and the cheater feeling unhappy and guilty. It usually happens when one of the partners, in most cases men, have a higher sexual urge than the other. There are many reasons that can influence sex life of a couple and so can indirectly lead one of them to cheat and by statistics, those are usually men: excessive devotion to work, lack of interest, even illness. They must be carefully and openly discussed. Adultery out of needs can be prevented by mutual understanding and willingness to work on a relationship.

#2 – Revenge

For most men, especially immature ones, revenge is a very common reason for cheating. It is much easier to “pay it back” than deal with the situation, have an open discussion and maybe even come to the point of losing a partner. This is especially typical for younger men who have never been in such situation before or for those that are not really good with controlling their emotions.

#3 – Ego

Sexual performance has always been important to men, especially when it comes to comparing to other men. So, in the period when they feel insecure about their abilities, men can start trying to prove themselves, and others, that they still have very active sex life. This is a common reason for men who are getting mature and need some time to deal with changes in their lives.

#4 – Opportunity

This is a reason that is usually the most painful for women because it is the most difficult to understand. Everything is going really well, a couple is perfectly happy and then he suddenly cheats with some woman he barely knows just because he had the chance. The obvious reason was opportunity but the fact is that there were many sub-reasons that muted the alarm bell: personal characteristics, current relations between partners, confidence, alcohol or upbringing and many other known and unknown reasons.

#5 – Unhappiness

When a relationship is still at the beginning, everything seems perfect – like the sea of happiness is never going to dry up. But sometimes, intentionally or not, people change, and their partners can end up wondering if the person that they have married was really the right choice. Men who are not happy in their relationships and have no courage to break up start cheating with an excuse that, that way both of the partners are satisfied. Of course, since that is not true the whole situation ends up being more painful.

#6 – Arrogance

We can all agree that cheating is never socially approved, even though some men among their so-called friends can get the thumbs up. Interestingly, there are situations when even they find it repulsive. The reason for that is arrogance. That happens when a men cheats because he can, because he is male, because he can bet that his wife will never find out. If you ever notice a man like this, just run, run like the wind!