CAN PEOPLE BE IN LOVE FOREVER?

Yes people can be in love forever. Being in love is meant to last forever. That is why people always use this phrase: ‘I will always love you’. Everybody wants to be in love forever. This is why people with commitment phobias don’t want to be in love. They don’t want to commit to one person forever. But what is wrong with committing to one person forever? You make better plans the two of you and keep building on your goals other than changing partners all the time, then you have to start afresh again and probably start new goals before you even finished the ones you had with the previous partner.

Also if you are just the two of you it’s easier to raise a family. It’s also easier for the kids. Starting one family then changing to the next and so on makes it hard for the kids.

Kids need to be brought up in a nice orderly environment. And it also means that the kids will have to keep changing mums and dads. One minute they are calling this person mum/dad, the next minute she/he’s gone and they are calling someone else mum/dad.

That is why relationships that are self-centered never last. If all you think about is yourself and your well being, then being in love isn’t for you. When you are in love with someone, their well being is equally as important as yours. Their happiness is equally as important as yours. Their security is equally as important as yours. Their support is equally as important as yours.

Being in love takes commitment. Without commitment, the love fades away. You just can’t sit back and say, ‘am in love’. You have to do something special for your partner and keep doing it. Simple romantic gestures such as filling the bathtub with nice herbal bubbly warm water, with candles all around, nice romantic music playing in the background, chocolates on the side of the bathtub and a warm towel. Then letting your partner go in the bathtub alone and enjoy it in private without you disturbing her or rushing to jump in with her. Give her some nice alone time to enjoy herself and feel appreciated. Afterwards when she’s through with the bathtub, she will reward you highly. Such things sustain the relationship and make being in love much more exciting.

Being in love is not just a feeling. It’s an act. Don’t just feel good about it, do something good about it. Being in love is a wonderful thing. Keep it wonderful by being wonderful to each other and the people around you.