Beauty of being in Love...

 

 When you are in love you begin a new life together with someone. But being truly in love takes commitment because sometimes the road might not be smooth. But as long as you are one with each other, you can go through anything: a hard terrain, a bad weather, an earthquake and still come out unharmed. Because when you have each other nothing else matters but the two of you.

We live in a world of problems but by being together, you should be able to solve any problem you come across. After all, two brains are better than one. It doesn't matter if you don't have food at home. What matters is that you are not facing the problem alone but with someone in the same situation as you and who is there for you.

Because you have chosen not to live as yourself but as ‘ourselves’ your problem is the other persons problem too. And you’re lucky you don’t have to deal with it alone. Your joy is also their joy and you are lucky you don’t have to celebrate alone.

And also when you are horny you don’t have to waste any more money on vibrators or prostitutes or lose your hand grip.

You don’t have to worry about someone loving you because somebody has already made a commitment to do so. You have someone to share stories with, to share moments with and coupled with marriage, someone to share a family and build the family with.

These things give you a peace of mind and save you a lot of time looking for them and being alone.

Being in love is a wonderful thing and one that should be experienced by all humanity.

But most importantly, being in love should be understood and not taken for granted.

 

SEX, BEAUTY AND BEING IN LOVE

Sex and beauty, help create happiness in a love environment, but they do not constitute being in love.

It takes more than sex and beauty to be in love. And people can fall in love without sex and beauty. These are physical things. Being in love is a deeper inner feeling of security, trust and loyalty, which basically means you have someone to be there for you and support you all the time. This assurance is far much greater than sex and beauty. Because sex and beauty is temporary but being in love lasts ‘forever’. The love will always keep flowing and the feeling will always be there, while beauty and sex fades away.

Note: Being in love is easy; staying in love is hard. It takes commitment, tolerance and a lot of genuine apologies to stay in love.

WHAT MAKES PEOPLE STAY IN LOVE

 Falling in love is easy but staying in love is hard. This requires continuous work. You have to keep working together to protect and maintain your relationship charter. What you enjoyed doing, during the beginning of your relationship, should go on throughout your relationship. You both need to work together to make your relationship better. You can’t just be idle and let your partner do all the work. You have to appreciate each other. Couples that compliment each other stay longer than couples that don’t. Such things as ‘you look beautiful’, ‘that’s a beautiful dress’, ‘I love your hairstyle’, ‘after all these years, I still love the way you walk’, such things should never before forgotten. Whatever you admired about that person when you first met, should continue. Whatever you liked about that person when you first met, should continue. Whatever made you fall in love with that person, should continue.

Normally relationships end because of ‘breach of contract’. You started the relationship based on certain ideas then after some time during the relationship you step away from these ideas. You begin to want something else or you fill unsatisfied. Normally this can be avoided if you took the time to really get to know that person before you started going out.

Most first encounters are based on assumptions and lies. Sometimes the assumptions and lies turn to truth but most times they don’t. So you either have to live with them or move on. Thus when you take your time to get to know someone, you really know them or at least you know them better than if you rushed.

People do sometimes grow out of their initial personalities. They grow to become somebody different from the one you met. They do this naturally and not deliberately. Mostly due to the fact that the really didn’t know what they wanted when they first met you and now they know. So they decide to take another path than yours and you part ways. You can’t do anything about this but you can try to avoid it by knowing someone’s aspirations and goals when you first meet. And if they are not sure what they want then don’t fall in love with them. You risk getting heartbroken if you fall in love with someone who doesn’t know what they want.

Sometimes, especially with girls, they cheat themselves. They meet a guy and even if they know that he isn’t good for them, they keep seeing him in the hope that he will change and they normally never change. If his bad today, he will be bad tomorrow.

Going out with someone who isn’t good for you doesn’t make things better. Some people do it because of the sex involved but then if there’s an attachment involved, someone risks getting hurt. Just because someone is good in bed doesn’t mean that you should get married or start a relationship. It takes more than just sex to maintain a relationship. It takes commitment, trust, love and many more that have already been talked about.

The main reason that makes people stay in love is that being in love is wonderful. The feeling is awesome and the sex amazing. Who wouldn’t want this? But then there also other factors mentioned already that make people stay out of love or fall out of love.

But once properly entered in, being in love can last forever and enjoyed forever. The elements of being in love keep the couple together but those who don’t abide by the elements quickly fall out of love. Thus this book hopes to give people a better understanding of what being in love is, so that they can enjoy it, appreciate it and each other and sustain their relationship.