Amazing couple..

Story courtesy of In2EastAfrica Reporter.

The world’s tallest teenage girl was spotted walking hands in hands with her boyfriend on a beach in Brazil, despite a staggering 1ft 4in height difference.

 Brazil’s tallest teen, Elisany da Cruz Silva with her boyfriend, Francinaldo da Silva Carvalho in Salinopolis, Brazil

6 ft 8in Elisany da Cruz Silva, 17, had to bend down to even plant a kiss on her lover Francinaldo da Silva Carvalho, 22, who is 5ft 4in in height.

The youngster, from Salinopolis in Brazil, has a form of gigantism due to a tumour on her pituitary gland, which regulates growth. Doctors have since removed the tumour, the Daily Mail reported.

 

At 6ft 8in-tall, Elisany towers over her smitten partner, who is just 5ft 4in

The aspiring model told Vietnam-based broadcaster BTV that it was Carvalho’s personality that attracted her towards him, the way he acted with people and her.

She said that the only thing that affected her was when the couple hang out together holding hands is the fact that Carvalho seems like her little brother or son.

Elisany lives in a small house with her sisters and mother Ana Maria Silva and step-father Luiz Jorge.

80 years of Marriage..

On Nov. 25, 1932, FDR had just defeated Herbert Hoover, the daily newspaper cost two cents, and Ann Shawah said "I do" to John Betar in Harrison, N.Y.

Fast forward through 13 presidents and 80 years to 2012: the Betars are still happily married. After five children, 14 grandchildren and 16 great children, the couple from Fairfield, Conn., will celebrate their 80th wedding anniversary Sunday.

"We are so blessed. We are fortunate," John Betar, 101, said.

"We are very fortunate. It can be repeated and repeated," Ann, 97, echoed.

"It is unconditional love and understanding. We have had that. We consider it a blessing."

Humble Beginnings

John Betar met Ann Shawah growing up in the same Syrian community in Bridgeport, Conn. Betar immigrated to America as a young child in 1921 with his brother, he explained, joining his father who put down roots for them in Bridgeport. After attending grammar school, Betar began working as a fruit peddler and met Ann Shawah, the daughter of Syrian immigrants, in the neighborhood.

"I fell for her right away," he said. "I used to have a Ford Roaster and I used to pick her and her friends and drive them to high school. Gradually she liked me and we got together."

It was slightly more complicated than that. Ann was arranged to be married to another man, 20 years her senior, whom her parents thought would be the best provider for their daughter. The 17-year-old was less than pleased with the arrangement and taken with Betar, then 21. Breaking with tradition and going against her family's wishes, the two eloped.

"At 17, you wonder if you're making the right choice," she said. "I had grown up with him and we had good times together and we knew each other very well. And it's turned out to be 80 years. ….God seems to have been with us. And we've been very fortunate and wonderful."

The two built a life together, a home, a family and lived out their own version of the American dream. Betar continued peddling fruit and in 1938, opened up his own grocery store, Betar's Market, in the south end of Bridgeport.

"We worked hard and never got tired of making money," he said. "This is the land of opportunity."

Ann stayed at home and raised their children. "She was a great mother," Betar said. "She raised five children and she was a wonderful caretaker."

Five children spawned 14 grandchildren and 16 great children. The couple said the later generations "bring new life" and light into their lives.

"Last year at [John's] 100th birthday party ... there was group of little 2 year olds and 5 year olds and a group that's just turning 19 and 20," Ann recalled. "We had it at the beach and we had fireworks. It was very special. The younger children went out on the beach and wrote 'Happy Birthday Jiddo,' [Grandpa in Arabic], in the sand, all along the beach. ... How can you not feel God's right with you and blessing you?"

Along with joyous moments and good memories like this one came bad times for the Betars.

"The hardest thing in our life was losing two of our children. That's the sad part. It's one of the worst thing a parent can face is losing a child, no matter how old they are or how young they are," Ann said.

But despite the trying moments that can test or break a marriage, the two have stayed together.

"There are so many things in a lifetime that can make you very, very happy and very, very sad, but if you can do it together then it's happiness," Ann said.

That's easier said than done for many couples today in the U.S. where the divorce rate hovers around 40 to 50 percent. What's their secret?

"They have this wonderful ability to accept life as it comes," their daughter Renee Betar said. "They have a way of trying to look around at the things that they do have -- the family and the blessings. They came from a generation where there is such respect for each other and caring."

The Betars consider themselves "fortunate." Hesitant to dole out advice to newlyweds, they each offered simple, guiding mantras to a lasting marriage.

"Get along. Compromise. Live within your means and be content," Betar said, before adding, "And let your wife be the boss."

"We don't have bosses," she said. Her advice: don't hold a grudge.

"You know what your commitments are and you try to live by them and understand one another. If you don't hold a grudge, you can face anything," Ann said.

The couple still lives independently on the beach in Fairfield and has kept active, pushing the boundaries of aging. In their later years, Ann discovered a hidden talent as an artist and took up painting in oils and watercolors. The two cook soup together, always from scratch. (The retired fruit peddler-turned-grocer continues to make outings to shop for the best produce and can't help but dispense recommendations to fellow customers at the store, his daughter reports, saying: "Oh no, don't buy that tomato if you want to eat it tonight.") They spend their days reading and proudly keeping up with what's going on in the world.

Celebrating 80 Years of Marriage

On Sunday, the couple will mark their 80th wedding anniversary with a quiet celebration surrounded by family and friends at the St. Nicholas Antiochian Orthodox Church in Bridgeport, where they are original founding members.

Ann said one of her daughters ordered a cake for the occasion and the baker called back, slightly confused, to confirm that it should read -- "Happy 80th Anniversary" instead of "Happy 80th Birthday."

After eighty years, Betar is still sweet on his bride and she is still sweet on him.

"He is a wonderful man. He is a very giving man to his children, to his family, to people that need it. He is a very generous, giving man," she said. "Can you blame me for living with him for 80 years?"

To the later generations of children and grandchildren, the Betars serve as role models for how to live and love in life.

"I'm always blown away by their incredible optimism, deep sense of compassion and modesty," said granddaughter Heather Mitchell of Fairfield, Conn. "They are true beacons -- inspirational people who emit such joy without even knowing it."

Teenage & Parenting..Obama's example

How Malia Obama has blossomed from an awkward teen to America's next style icon as she follows in the First Lady's footsteps:

Story courtesy - Daily Mail Reporter

Looking every bit as poised and elegant as her mother, the long-limbed first daughter has taken the awkward out of adolescence with ease.

In the weeks since election night, the emerging styles of the Obama daughters, and especially Malia, has taken center stage - the 14-year-old blossoming from the President's wide-eyed 'baby' into a self-assured young woman who has inherited her mother's confidence, bold fashion sense and looks.

Wearing a shiny blue full skirt from ASOS with a neon pink Zara belt, and J. Crew flats, Malia proved she has inherited her mother's classic but bold sensibility on election night - seamlessly following in her well-heeled footsteps.

Malia, standing nearly as tall as her 5-foot-11 mother, now carries herself with confidence, striding alongside her mother like two-peas-in-a-poised-pod.

Unlike many teens unused to their new height, she shows no trace of awkwardness or embarrassment, instead, she embraces her lean figure with smart, yet bang-on-trend, wardrobe choices.

Since turning 14 on Independence Day, she has slowly started to tick off some age-appropriate milestones - like her first mobile phone.

Mrs Obama admitted in June that she ‘scared the heck’ out of Malia with ‘days of lectures’ on the dangers of talking to strangers before handing the device over.

He admitted in an interview last year, before her two-inch growth spurt: 'Even though she's 5ft 9in, she's still my baby. And she just got braces, which is good, because she looks like a kid and she was getting ... she's starting to look too old for me.

One occasion in particular came as a shock, as Mrs Obama revealed on The View.

She said: 'He says he's cool, but you know... The first time Malia went out for a party and she was dressed, she had her hair done and she's tall, she had on a pretty dress, you could see him, he was sort of like... gulp. And I was like, "Easy dad."'

President Obama often talks highly of his two children, saying they are kind, respectful, responsible and well-behaved girls.

‘I could not ask for better kids,’ he told ABC News in June. ‘I'm not anticipating complete mayhem for the next four, five years. But I understand teenage-hood is complicated. I should also point out that I have men with guns that surround them often.’

Relationship Tips...

 

Too many people are in relationships where they are blaming the other person for all their problems. Men, women, we all do it, but it's doesn't make for a healthy relationship. Making a relationship better though, can actually be quite simple. Ignore all the stuff that isn't really important and concentrate on the small little things that are. A healthy relationship can be yours, if you just follow these simple better relationship tips. You might be surprised at what happens!

1. Don't Say Things in Anger - We've all done it. Lost our temper in the middle of a fight with a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife and shouted something we later regret. The first tip to help get a better relationship is simple. Don't say things in anger, because I'll guarantee you will regret them later. Take a deep breath, calm down and, once you're calm and had time to think, tell your partner what's really making you angry. Surprisingly, you'll often find out it's not the thing you thought it was, and you won't have to regret saying that it was.

2. Trust Your Partner - So many times I hear people complaining about their relationships, and then I realize they don't trust their partner. Never have. Without trust, a relationship will never be a healthy one. So, until you know any different, trust that what your partner is telling you and doing can be trusted. Men especially need to be trusted; it's the cornerstone of any healthy relationship with a woman. Trust him, and you could be shocked at how much healthier your relationship suddenly becomes because, after all, if you don't trust someone, they often start to do things you accused them of. After all, if you think they're doing it, they might as well. Right?

3. Be Complimentary - People love compliments, but very few of us in relationships actually give them. Men and women love compliments so give them freely. Men especially love to get compliments as, more than women, they very rarely receive them. Make a vow to yourself. Give your partner a new compliment at least two or three times a week and see how quickly your relationship will become better.

4. Stand Up To Your Partner - Don't let yourself be trodden on or rode roughshod over by your partner. Stand up for yourself and don't accept bad behaviour. Surprisingly, the less you put up with bad behaviour, the less likely you are to get it. Men and women respect people who respect themselves so stand up for yourself and your partner will respect you more too.

5. Always Think of 'We' - Too many people in relationships think about 'me' and not 'we'. A relationship is made up of two people. Make sure you make decisions that are healthy for both of you and your relationship will automatically become a better one.

6. Talk to Each Other - The best relationship advice in the world is this - talk to each other. When you've got problems or concerns, or things just don't seem to be going right, don't talk to your friends, talk to each other. Nobody else, except the people in the relationship really know what's going on in it or understands what the problems are. Talk to each other, don't hide anything, and work things out together.

7. Don't Treat Your Partner like The Enemy - So many people treat their girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands and wives, like the enemy. They're not. They're actually supposed to love you and you they so, if you're treating your partner like the enemy, stop it! Treat him or her like an ally and, unsurprisingly, they'll probably become one.

8. Talk about Your Partner the Way You Want Him/her To Be - People usually become what we tell them they are. If we tell them they're "stupid", "lazy", "rude", "disrespectful", then that's what they usually become. But, if you are constantly telling them they are "smart", "handsome", "kind" and "a good person", fascinatingly, that's what they become. Never tell your partner that he or she is something negative or you may get what you didn't wish for.

9. Nagging is the Worst Thing You Can Do - Most men who have affairs often say it's because they lived with a nagger. Nothing they ever did was right, and most of it was wrong. Imagine going home every day and being told exactly what you're doing wrong. It's not surprising that many men have affairs because they want to be with someone who makes them feel good about themselves. When you feel yourself nagging, stop it. Nagging is absolute poison to a relationship and, besides, you married a grown-up right? So why do you suddenly have to become his mother?

10. Spend Time Together - Too many people are so obsessed with making money and buying stuff, they don't spend enough time with their partner. Spend quality time every day with your partner, even if it's just watching a TV show together, doing the dishes together, or putting the kids to bed together. It's the little things in a healthy relationship that keep it healthy but spending time together is a big one.

These tips are just a few things you should do if you want to be in a healthy relationship. Relationship advice is all very good but, if you don't follow it, or don't treat your partner like a human being then your relationship will fail.

A better relationship can be just as easy as being kind, respectful and complimentary, and being your partner's friend. What's really sad is many of us treat our partners worse than we treat our friends. Think about how you treat your best friend and start treating your partner the same way and your relationship could be a healthy one in no time.

Relationship Tip:

 

 

 

 

In a relationship you need someone who will fight WITH you and not AGAINST you!

Abuses of being in love..

 1. Infatuation

This is where you so much want to be in love, that when you are with someone you mistake anything they do for you as they are being in love with you. There is a very fine line between being in love and being infatuated. Being in love is an action thing. You are assured all the time that someone loves you from what they do. Even when they do something wrong, they make it up to you and don’t continue doing it. Infatuation is in the head. Your belief of being in love outweighs anything bad that the person might do to you. And the small nice things the person does once in a while assures your mind that you are right. You assume that you are really in love even if you in actual fact aren’t. You ignore the bad signals and accept the good signals.

2. Lust

 This is where your desire for sex over runs your well being and you mistake that as being in love. You don’t care about anything else as long as you are constantly having sex. You are so focused on your sexual desires that even when the person is not right for you, it doesn’t matter as long as you are having sex. Even if you know that what you are doing is wrong, you don’t care (as in teacher-student relationships). Your desire to have sex with each other outweighs the consequences that might follow. In some cases your well being deteriorates such that you gain a lot of weight and you don’t care as long as you are having sex with that person. You neglect your commitment to your body and livelihood.

Most people are in lust and just want to have sex all the time. They don’t have time for anything else. But unfortunately we live in a world where you can’t spend the entire day after day having sex. You have to live, you have to survive and you have to enjoy life doing other things. And you have to associate with other people.

3. Sacrificial

This is where you know someone hurts you all the time but you hope he or she will change. You sacrifice your happiness for something that isn’t there. Most people in this situation keep saying ‘he or she will change’. Even though deep down they know the person won’t change, they hope that he or she might change. They are scared to move on and be alone. With some girls they feel that if they leave the guy, they won’t find someone else. They feel no one else will love them so they hope that the guy they are with might change his behaviour. And despite the mistreatment, there are also some good things that they like about the guy. Most guys who allow this to happen feel that the girl is too good for them and they are lucky enough that she’s with them despite the fact that she hurts him.

People are naturally lazy finding the person that is right for them because it involves risk. They don’t want to risk being turned down as this will make them feel unwanted.

Everybody wants to be loved and wanted but sometimes you can never know if someone loves and wants you until you get close to them and let them know how you feel about them.

People should realize that rejection is normal and not everyone will love you but also not everyone will hate you.

You can’t be with someone you know doesn’t love you just because you are scared that no one will ever love you.

The time wasted being with someone you don’t love could have been spent finding someone you love

Good things only happen to those who look for them, and not to those who wait for good things to happen to them.

Life is unfair to those who don’t play fair. If you waste your time with someone you don’t want or who doesn’t want you, then you will definitely have problems in your relationships and life.

4. Foolish love

This is where someone hurts you and you blame yourself. It follows the phrase ‘it’s my fault’. Even though the evidence is there that he is deliberately hurting you, you keep blaming yourself; ‘Maybe I don’t love him/her enough’.

If someone can’t love you for who you are and what you give them, then they won’t love you no matter how much you try to change.

Most people in this situation are those that are insecure or have low self-esteem. They don’t believe they are good enough for their partner. They feel their partner is justified to hurt them because they don’t listen to them or fulfil their need. It follows phrases like ‘I asked for it, only if I had kept quiet this wouldn’t have happened’.

It’s called foolish love because the person involved is stubborn. He/she doesn’t want to acknowledge their partner’s wrong doing. They will even go to great lengths to protect their partner’s cruelty to them. For example: a woman being beaten by her partner will cover her bruises or injuries. When asked what happened, they will probably say ‘I fell down’. If pressured they will say ‘It’s my fault’. It’s never the partner’s fault. Also the fact that their partner is sometimes good to them, makes them want their partner more because they miss the good things which the rarely get. The little attention and nice things they get, means a lot more to them than to a girl who gets these things all the time.

Thus they protect the little attention and good things they get from their partner by blaming themselves for every wrong that their partner does. That is why it’s so important that before you live with someone you should learn to live alone, because, if you can’t learn to live on your own you fall into this trap. You end up having to put up with these abuses of being in love.

Being in love is a good thing and it should stay a good thing. If it’s not good, then it’s not love and it’s time for you to move on.

Don’t put yourself in misery just for the sake of an idea. Live the idea, don’t just imagine it and pretend it’s happening when it’s not.

Exams, Test & Treatment-STDs

Exams and Tests

 

Some STDs can be diagnosed without any tests at all (for example, pubic lice). Other STDs require a blood test or a sample of any unusual fluid (such as an abnormal discharge from the vagina or the penis for gonorrhea or chlamydia) to be analyzed in a lab to help establish a diagnosis. Some tests are completed while a person waits; other tests require a few days before a person may obtain the results (for example, syphilis).

Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) Treatment

Self-Care at Home

 

Home treatment of STDs is not recommended because prescription medications are usually necessary.

Medical Treatment

 

The treatment of an STD varies depending on the type of STD. Some STDs require a person to take antibiotic medication either by mouth or by injection; other STDs require a person to apply creams or special solutions on the skin. Often, reexamination by a doctor is necessary after the treatment to confirm that the STD is completely gone.

Some STDs, such as genital herpes and HIV (which leads to AIDS), cannot be cured, only controlled with medication.

STDs - When to Seek Medical Care

 

A medical examination may be necessary if a person believes he or she may have an STD or if he or she may have been exposed to someone with an STD. Being seen by a doctor as soon as possible after exposure to an STD is important; these infections can easily spread to others and can have serious complications.

Go to a hospital's emergency department in these circumstances if:

• an STD problem worsens;
  
• a fever develops with other symptoms; or
  
• if it will be a couple of days before the individual can be evaluated by a doctor.

Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) Sympoms..

 

Common STDs have a variety of symptoms (if symptoms develop at all) and many different complications, including death.  

Symptoms of STDs caused by bacteria:

Chancroid Symptoms

 •Are not common in the United States but common in developing countries.

•Symptoms include painful ulcers on the genitals.

•Can be confused with syphilis or herpes

•Is treatable with antibiotics

Chlamydia symptoms

 •Most common of all STDs caused by bacteria.

•Cause no symptoms in about 80% of women and 50% of men

•When symptoms are present, commonly there is discharge from the vagina or the penis, and burning or pain during urination.

•Is transmitted through vaginal, oral, or anal sexual contact

•Ectopic pregnancy and infertility for women are potential serious complications.

•Is treatable with antibiotics

 Gonorrhea symptoms

 •Discharge from the vagina or the penis

•Over 50% of infected women have no symptoms, but they can still transmit the disease to others.

•Painful urination

•Ectopic pregnancy, pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), infertility for women, Fitzhugh-Curtis syndrome (perihepatitis) and death are potential serious complications.

•Is treatable with antibiotics  

Granuloma inguinale (donovanosis) symptoms

 •Not common in the U.S.

•Symptoms are painless genital ulcers in the groin area.

•Is treatable with antibiotics, usually for three or more weeks

Lymphogranuloma venereum

 •Not common in the U. S.

•Symptoms are abscesses (buboes) in the groin, rectum or other areas; fistulas that drain pus may occur and are treatable with antibiotics.

Syphilis

•Symptoms are mild and often go undetected initially

•Starts with a painless genital ulcer that goes away on its own

•Rash, fever, headache, achy joints

•Is treatable with antibiotics

•More serious complications associated with later stages of the disease if undetected and untreated

Symptoms of STDs caused by viruses

Genital herpes

 •Recurring outbreaks of blister-like sores on the genitals

•Can be transmitted from a mother to her baby during birth

•Reduction in frequency and severity of blister outbreaks with treatment but not complete elimination of infection.

•Can be transmitted by a partner who has herpes even if no blisters are present.

Genital warts

•Caused by a virus related to skin warts, human papillomavirus (HPV)

•Small, painless bumps in the genital or anal areas (sometimes in large clusters that look like cauliflower)

•Various treatments available (for example, freezing or painting the warts with medication)

•Vaccines are available against the most common types of HPV

Hepatitis

•Hepatitis B and D are most often associated with sexual contact, hepatitis A, C, E are less frequently transmitted by sexual contact.

•Both may be transmitted via contact with blood; for hepatitis B, sexual transmission is believed to be responsible for 30% of the cases worldwide.

•The hepatitis B virus can cause both an initial (acute) and a chronic form of liver inflammation. Only 50% of acute infections with the hepatitis B virus produce symptoms. The initial phase of infection lasts a few weeks, and in most people (90%-95%), the infection clears.

•Acute infection can cause yellowish skin and eyes, fever, achy, tired (flu-like symptoms).

•Severe complications in some people, including cirrhosis and liver cancer may occur in a small percent of individuals infected with HBV.

•Treatments are available and remission is possible with some aggressive medications.

•Immunizations are available to prevent hepatitis B.

HIV/AIDS

•Spread primarily by sexual contact and from sharing IV needles

•Can be transmitted at the time a person becomes infected with other STDs

•No specific symptoms or physical signs confirm HIV infection.

•The average time from infection to the development of symptoms related to immunosuppression (decreased functioning of the immune system) is 10 years.

•Fatigue, night sweats, chills, or fever lasting several weeks, headaches, and cough may occur a few weeks after contracting the virus initially.

•Serious complications of AIDS include unusual infections or cancers, weight loss, intellectual deterioration (dementia), and death.

•No current cure but medications are available to slow disease progression.

Molluscum contagiosum

 •Small (2-5mm) raised areas (papules) on the skin

•Contagious, usually by direct skin to skin contact

•Self-limited over months to years; treated with some topical creams

•Often cryotherapy (freezing) or surgical removal is performed

Symptoms of STDs caused by protozoan

Trichomonas

•Frothy vaginal discharge with a strong odor

•Treated with antibacterial/antiprotozoal medicines

 Symptoms of STDs* caused by fungi

Jock itch (genital itching or Tenia cruris)* (not always an STD)

 •Itchy groin skin, sometimes has a reddish color

•Is treated with topical antifungal medicines

Yeast infection (Candidiasis)* (not always an STD)

•Cheese-like vaginal discharge or whitish exudates sometimes with a reddish hue to the skin; it may occur around the foreskin of infected males; common symptoms are itching and burning sensation of the vagina or penis.

•Is treated with topical antifungal medicines in most cases

Symptoms of STDs caused by parasites

Pubic lice

•Very tiny bugs that are found in pubic hair, sometimes referred to as "crabs"

•Can be picked up from clothing or bedding

•First noticed as itching in the pubic area

•Are treatable with creams, anti-lice agents, and combing

Scabies

•Skin infestation caused by a tiny mite

•Highly contagious

•Intense itching is the primary symptom, which worsens at night

•Spread primarily by sexual contact or from contact with skin, infested sheets, towels, or furniture

•Is treated with creams

Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) Causes

 Depending on the disease, STDs can be spread with any type of sexual activity. STDs are most often caused by viruses and bacteria. The following is a list of the most common STDs, their causes and other infections (see STDs with asterisk mark*) that may be transmitted on occasion by sexual activity, but are frequently not considered primarily to be an STD by many investigators:

STDs caused by bacteria

•Chancroid (Haemophilus ducreyi)

•Chlamydia (Chlamydia trachomatis)

•Gonorrhea (Neisseria gonorrhea)

•Granuloma inguinale (Calymmatobacterium granulomatis)

•Lymphogranuloma venereum (Chlamydia trachomatis)

• Syphilis (Treponema pallidum)

STDs caused by viruses

•Genital herpes (herpes simplex virus)

• Genital warts (human papillomavirus virus [HPV])

•Hepatitis B and D, and infrequently, A*,C*,E* (hepatitis viruses, types A-E)

• HIV/AIDS (human immunodeficiency virus [HIV virus])

•Molluscum contagiosum* (poxvirus)

STD caused by protozoan

• Trichomoniasis (Trichomonas vaginalis)

STD's* caused by fungi

 • Jock itch (Tenia cruris)*

•Yeast infections* (Candida albicans)

STD's caused by parasites

 •Pubic lice or crabs (Pediculosis pubis)

•Scabies*  Sarcoptes scabiei

Keep learning...

Sexually Transmitted Diseases Overview (STDs)

 

Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs, venereal diseases) are among the most common infectious diseases in the World today. STDs are sometimes referred to as sexually transmitted infections, since these conditions involve the transmission of an infectious organism between sex partners.

More than 20 different STDs have been identified, and about 19 million men and women are infected each year in the United States alone every year, according to the CDC (2010).

Depending on the disease, the infection can be spread through any type of sexual activity involving the sex organs, the anus, or the mouth; an infection can also be spread through contact with blood during sexual activity.

STDs are infrequently transmitted by any other type of contact (blood, body fluids or tissue removed from an STD infected person and placed in contact with an uninfected person); however, people that share unsterilized needles markedly increase the chance to pass many diseases, including STD's (especially hepatitis B), to others.

Some diseases are not considered to be officially an STD (for example, hepatitis types A, C, E) but are infrequently noted to be transferred during sexual activity. Consequently, some authors include them as STD's, others do not. Consequently, lists of STD's can vary, depending on whether the STD is usually transmitted by sexual contact or only infrequently transmitted.

• STDs affect men and women of all ages and backgrounds, including children. 
• STDs have become more common in recent years, partly because people are becoming sexually active at a younger age, are having multiple partners, and do not use preventive methods to lessen their chance of acquiring an STD.
• People can pass STDs to sexual partners even if they themselves do not have any symptoms.
• Frequently, STDs can be present but cause no symptoms, especially in women (for example, chlamydia, genital herpes or gonorrhea). This can also occur in some men.
  
• Health problems and long-term consequences from STDs tend to be more severe for women than for men. Some STDs can cause pelvic infections such aspelvic inflamatory diseases (PID), which may cause a tubo-ovarian abscess. Theabscess, in turn, may lead to scarring of the reproductive organs, which can result in anectopic pregnancy (a pregnancy outside the uterus),   infetility or even death for a woman.
  
  Human papillomavirus infection (HPV infection), an STD, is a known cause of cancer of the cervix.
• Many STDs can be passed from a mother to her baby before, during, or immediately after birth.
• Because the method of becoming infected is similar with all STDs, a person often obtains more than one pathogenic organism at a time. For example, many people (about 50%) are infected at a single sexual contact with both gonorrhea and chlamydia.

To be continued...

WHY DO YOU NEED TO BE IN LOVE?

 

People need to be in love because it’s a good thing. But not everyone will be in love. Different commitments and phobias have hindered some people of the wonderful gift of being in love. But still other people are in love but not to their partners but to their work, car, boat, dog, self etc.

Being in love with someone gives you internal happiness. You know you are not alone. There’s someone out there who wants the same things as you and who enjoys the same things as you and who supports you and takes care of you and loves you and sleeps with you.

When people are in love, they are more organized and focused. A lot of energy and time is wasted thinking about sex and looking for a partner. But when you in love, you don’t have to look for a partner, you don’t have to look for love, you don’t have to spend a lot of time looking for sex and thinking about sex.

Your partner provides you these things, thus you have more time to do other things. It’s like a heavy burden has been lifted off your shoulder. You can then spend that time doing good for mankind. ‘A happy man has happy thoughts’. Being in love is a wonderful thing and most people should fall in love. But the desire to be in love should not outweigh the readiness to be in love.

If being in love is rushed, it crushes. You need to really know the person before you commit to them and totally open up to them. Unfortunately we live in a cruel world where some people don’t have honest intentions. Something like being in love can be manipulated for their own benefit, which would not benefit you but bring you misery. If someone loves you that means they are saying that they are not going anywhere. Thus there is no need to rush for anything.

Being in love should not be used as means to take advantage of someone neither should it be used to ruin someone’s life.

Being in love should be enjoyed, appreciated and looked forward to.

Can you be in love with anyone?

Unfortunately you can not be in love with anyone. We are all different. We want different things; we need different things; we like different things; we have different upbringings, different desires, different tastes, different goals and aspirations.

Thus there is no way that you can be in love with anyone unless you keep changing your personality to suit them but even then, your true self will always come out and you then fall out of love with them or they fall out of love with you.

But most importantly, it is not really necessary to be in love with anyone. You don’t need three billion ladies or guys. You only need one and there is always someone for everyone. No matter how pathetic you are there is someone for you. But most people abuse this. They know there is someone for them but they don’t try to be a better person for someone.

It takes two to tango.

So just as much as you want someone good thing for you, you should make yourself appealing, to someone.

A lot of relationships fail because there is only one person doing the loving. Both of you should contribute to making the relationship better. Both of you should be in love with each other.

Beauty of being in Love...

 

 When you are in love you begin a new life together with someone. But being truly in love takes commitment because sometimes the road might not be smooth. But as long as you are one with each other, you can go through anything: a hard terrain, a bad weather, an earthquake and still come out unharmed. Because when you have each other nothing else matters but the two of you.

We live in a world of problems but by being together, you should be able to solve any problem you come across. After all, two brains are better than one. It doesn't matter if you don't have food at home. What matters is that you are not facing the problem alone but with someone in the same situation as you and who is there for you.

Because you have chosen not to live as yourself but as ‘ourselves’ your problem is the other persons problem too. And you’re lucky you don’t have to deal with it alone. Your joy is also their joy and you are lucky you don’t have to celebrate alone.

And also when you are horny you don’t have to waste any more money on vibrators or prostitutes or lose your hand grip.

You don’t have to worry about someone loving you because somebody has already made a commitment to do so. You have someone to share stories with, to share moments with and coupled with marriage, someone to share a family and build the family with.

These things give you a peace of mind and save you a lot of time looking for them and being alone.

Being in love is a wonderful thing and one that should be experienced by all humanity.

But most importantly, being in love should be understood and not taken for granted.

 

SEX, BEAUTY AND BEING IN LOVE

Sex and beauty, help create happiness in a love environment, but they do not constitute being in love.

It takes more than sex and beauty to be in love. And people can fall in love without sex and beauty. These are physical things. Being in love is a deeper inner feeling of security, trust and loyalty, which basically means you have someone to be there for you and support you all the time. This assurance is far much greater than sex and beauty. Because sex and beauty is temporary but being in love lasts ‘forever’. The love will always keep flowing and the feeling will always be there, while beauty and sex fades away.

Note: Being in love is easy; staying in love is hard. It takes commitment, tolerance and a lot of genuine apologies to stay in love.

WHAT MAKES PEOPLE STAY IN LOVE

 Falling in love is easy but staying in love is hard. This requires continuous work. You have to keep working together to protect and maintain your relationship charter. What you enjoyed doing, during the beginning of your relationship, should go on throughout your relationship. You both need to work together to make your relationship better. You can’t just be idle and let your partner do all the work. You have to appreciate each other. Couples that compliment each other stay longer than couples that don’t. Such things as ‘you look beautiful’, ‘that’s a beautiful dress’, ‘I love your hairstyle’, ‘after all these years, I still love the way you walk’, such things should never before forgotten. Whatever you admired about that person when you first met, should continue. Whatever you liked about that person when you first met, should continue. Whatever made you fall in love with that person, should continue.

Normally relationships end because of ‘breach of contract’. You started the relationship based on certain ideas then after some time during the relationship you step away from these ideas. You begin to want something else or you fill unsatisfied. Normally this can be avoided if you took the time to really get to know that person before you started going out.

Most first encounters are based on assumptions and lies. Sometimes the assumptions and lies turn to truth but most times they don’t. So you either have to live with them or move on. Thus when you take your time to get to know someone, you really know them or at least you know them better than if you rushed.

People do sometimes grow out of their initial personalities. They grow to become somebody different from the one you met. They do this naturally and not deliberately. Mostly due to the fact that the really didn’t know what they wanted when they first met you and now they know. So they decide to take another path than yours and you part ways. You can’t do anything about this but you can try to avoid it by knowing someone’s aspirations and goals when you first meet. And if they are not sure what they want then don’t fall in love with them. You risk getting heartbroken if you fall in love with someone who doesn’t know what they want.

Sometimes, especially with girls, they cheat themselves. They meet a guy and even if they know that he isn’t good for them, they keep seeing him in the hope that he will change and they normally never change. If his bad today, he will be bad tomorrow.

Going out with someone who isn’t good for you doesn’t make things better. Some people do it because of the sex involved but then if there’s an attachment involved, someone risks getting hurt. Just because someone is good in bed doesn’t mean that you should get married or start a relationship. It takes more than just sex to maintain a relationship. It takes commitment, trust, love and many more that have already been talked about.

The main reason that makes people stay in love is that being in love is wonderful. The feeling is awesome and the sex amazing. Who wouldn’t want this? But then there also other factors mentioned already that make people stay out of love or fall out of love.

But once properly entered in, being in love can last forever and enjoyed forever. The elements of being in love keep the couple together but those who don’t abide by the elements quickly fall out of love. Thus this book hopes to give people a better understanding of what being in love is, so that they can enjoy it, appreciate it and each other and sustain their relationship.