R.I.P Mandela

 

 

                         Nelson Mandela (1918-2013) and Julius Nyerere (1922-1999), R.I.P

delicious Dillish Wins BBA The CHASE 2013

                                                                Story courtesy: riverajooa blog

Namibia’s Dillish Matthews was easily the most recognisable face at the outset of the BBA-The Chase. She left many clueless over the many names and references to her both in and out of the Big Brother Africa house.

She bears Tafadzwa Pearl Billings on her Facebook account.And on it she wrote:

“Please don’t add me, I have no interest in meeting new people,” ‘Dillish’ says on her Tafadzwa Pearl Billings Facebook account. But don’t take that to heart because she promises to do the adding herself in the very next line: “I’ll do the adding, you accept or ignore, which ever tickles your fancy.”

The misspelling of tickles catches the eye of the reader and it does say some things about how meticulous she can be.

 

If you are still engrossed in reading her profile she begins to say things that will put the ordinary reader off. “Like seriously, I don’t know what else you want me to say, why you still reading?” she inquires. But if that didn’t bring her out as uncouth, the next line nails it: “I don’t want to be your friend stop reading me! Go away! No!!!”The non-use of a period after the first sentence becomes even more noticeable after the first sentence here.

 

While you worry about that she reveals her love for playing the guitar and doing her hair. The hair part is in line since she models. But she loves ponies and princess stories too.

 

“ I don’t believe enemies should become friends,” she states. And adds:  “Clearly it’s not meant to be.”

By this time she feels you have known enough and tells you to ‘go away.’ But before you say ‘what the heck?’ she blows a kiss “Mwaaaah,” and signs off, “Thanks for the add.”

 

For a favourite quote, Dillish is stern: “Don’t call me hot, I’m a woman not a cup of tea,” she says.  It is noteworthy that Tafadzwa Billings gives her place of abode as Potchefstroom, an academic city in the North West Province of South Africa.

 

Is she Zimbabwean or Namibian?

The Tafadzwa name which Dillish bears has given rise to insinuations that she is Zimbabwean.  It is Shona and means ‘we are happy.’ But that is a name that has brought her more worries than happiness on social media. Her accent lays more credence to the Zimbabwean claims that she may have grown up in Zimbabwe just like last year’s Namibian reps -Eve and Edith - that only crossed the border in their teens. But some other fans are punching holes with the Tafadzwa Pearl Billings account which they believe is a fake. But the fact that the pictures on the account were uploaded in 2012, long before Dillish became popular in Zimbabwe seems to rubbish the fake account claims. The confusion is already pitting Big Brother Africa fans of both countries against each other. A certain Tawanda guy who has ‘liked’ the uploaded pictures on the Billings account is touted as the originator of the ‘fake ‘account.

 

Dillish Mathews, the princess?

 

With 14,034 likes, The Dillish Mathews page is described as the official Facebook page of ‘Matthews: business person, model, and entertainer representing Namibia in Big Brother Africa., The Chase.

The short bio of the 22-year-old on the page reveals that Dillish is the reigning Miss University Africa 1st Princess. But this is the page that is clearly buzzing for Dillish because the wall posts are up-to-the-minute. The backing she receives alongside Maria as part of ‘Team Marlish’ is evident here. The support from Namibia’s home affairs and immigration minister was evident here as a picture of the duo with the lovely minister received some buzz herewith 82 likes as at Thursday by 6.57p.m.

 

Part of Dellish-marlish Dillish?

The Dillish that goes by Dellish-marlish Dilllish lives in Windhoek and is from Rundu, in Namibia.  The Facebook wall picture is one that also bears Maria Nepembe’s face. The page seems to suggest that it was created for the Big Brother Africa show. With only about two posts with the last post on June 3, 2013, it is likely this page has been abandoned by its creator. The ‘Marlish’ in this instance refers to the Maria connection.
 

Maria’s friend...

 

Dillish’s friendship with country woman Maria Nepembe suggests that the duo knew each other outside the Big Brother house. And the many pictures of the duo together on the various accounts suggest a strong friendship

Dillish Oshiomhole?

Very early on The Chase, Dillish disclosed that she had been to Edo State, Nigeria as part of a Miss Universities contingent that visited Governor Adams Oshiomhole in Benin. But what got most Nigerian BBA fans interested was her claim that the comrade governor gave the beauty queens $3,000 each. And some have branded her Dillish Oshiomhole – just to commemorate that visit.  How many beauty queens were on that entourage, Dillish?

The Show.

Namibia's Dillish Mathews won the Big Brother Africa, The Chase! The first time that a Namibian housemate won the continental reality TV show.

After expressing her desires to be the first woman to win the Big Brother grand prize since Zambia's Cherise did so seven seasons ago, Dillish has done it for all of Africa's women!

The gorgeous Namibian started her Chase race as the proverbial underdog and was labeled everything from lazy to a pampered princess. As the Chase rolled on however, Dillish quickly emerged as a very strong contender for the Chase title and won her fellow Housemates and Africa over, with her quirky, accented alter ego, aptly titled Princess Dillish.

The Namibian made sure to stay away from trouble and coasted through the Chase by taking her place behind the scenes. 

While her fellow housemates got themselves into hot water, fighting and gossiping their way to what they hoped was the top of the mountain, Dillish remained grounded and maintained cordial relations with her fellow housemates.

The only time the Namibian got herself in a spot of trouble was when she and her good friend, Nigeria's Melvin, had a disagreement after she told her fellow housemates about a relationship he was involved in, which was less than stellar. 

Dillish and Cleo proved to all and sundry that women are indeed a force of nature. The two hotties pipped their male counterparts, Elikem and Melvin to the top 2 while, as well as their close friend Beverly.

Before the big news was delivered, Pebbles the fish surprised all and sundry with one last speech. "On behalf of myself and the other fish, I would like to congratulate you on your amazing feat. You are the 'specialest' ladies in Africa," Pebbles said.

However, one thing is clear! On 25th of August,2013 was Dillish's night and oh what a moment it was! As soon as the Namibian was announced the winner of the Chase, the Namibian broke down in a heap of tears at the realisation that she has a cool USD 300,000 in her bank account.

 Here is how Africa Voted this week (25 August 2013) - Congratulations to Dillish (Namibia) on winning The Chase.

Angola: Dillish

Botswana: Cleo
Ghana: Elikem
Kenya: Dillish
Ethiopia: Beverly
Malawi: Cleo
Namibia: Dillish
Nigeria: Melvin
South Africa: Cleo
Sierra Leone: Elikem
Tanzania: Dillish
Uganda: Dillish
Zambia: Cleo
Zimbabwe: Elikem
Rest of Africa: Melvin

Total: Dillish = 5, Cleo = 4, Elikem = 3, Melvin = 2, Beverly = 1.

Big Up BIG! Till 2014!

Signs of Maturity..

I believe most people would appreciate the comment made by BBA The CHASE, 2013 Tanzania representative, Feza Kessy in response to IK questions about her boyfriend in the house, that is how people in relationships should react:

 

“I had my doubts – I tried so hard because I wanted him to trust me. Then I put myself in his shoes and I realized I would react the same way. I thought I owed it to him to earn that trust,” she said.

Married or Not, this is very useful..

 

I am a firm believer in keeping marriages revived and alive and when I see something that touches my heart, I love sharing with my friends!

We all need to keep our relationships alive and exciting and filled with love till death do us part. I was married for 37 years until death took my husband away within a few minutes and I was always faithful to him. And please remember that cancer or any other sickness should make your marriage stronger, not tear it apart. After you read this, stop and tell your spouse that you love them and give them a big hug and always cherish your relationship! Sheila.

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

 I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.

At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. If you are not in a relationship now, remember this for the second (or third) time around. It's never too late.

By sharing this, you just might save a marriage.

Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

casual smart to stunning wear..Kim K & Kanye W

Kim in decent outfit..

Decent, classic-pregnant wear..

                             Kim-Kardashian proving her beauty in a decent pregnant wear..

True love is acceptance...

A Doctor's Note:

It was approximately 8.30 a.m. on a busy morning when an elderly gentleman in his eighties arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9.00 a.m.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat. I knew it would take more than an hour before someone would to able to attend to him. I saw him check his watch anxiously for the time and decided to evaluate his wound since I was not busy with another patient.

On examination, the wound was well healed. Hence, I talked to one of the doctors to get the supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

We began to engage in a conversation while I was taking care of his wound. I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment later as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no and said that he needed to go to the nursing home to have breakfast with his wife.

I inquired about her health. He told me that she had been in the nursing home for a while as she was a victim of Alzheimer's disease. I probed further and asked if she would be upset if he was slightly late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was and she had not been able to recognize him since five years ago.

I asked him in surprise, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."

I had to hold back my tears as he left.

I had goose bumps on my arm, and I thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life."

True love is neither physical nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be..

Woman behind a Man...

One night President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do something out of routine and go for a casual dinner at a restaurant that wasn’t too luxurious. When they were seated, the owner of the restaurant asked the president’s secret service if he could please speak to the First Lady in private.

They obliged and Michelle had a conversation with the owner. Following this conversation President Obama asked Michelle,

“Why was he so interested in talking to you?”

She mentioned that in her teenage years, he had been madly in love with her. President Obama then said,

“So if you had married him, you would now be the owner of this lovely restaurant?,”

Michelle responded, “No. If I had married him, he would now be the President.”

 

People, believe it or not, sometimes it’s a woman that makes a man who he is....

14 february 2013

Strengthen the bond of your love by dedicating some romantic love messages to your beloved. A few words of love can create the magic of a million romantic novels.

Express your emotions creatively and sweep your lover of his/her feet. Creatively pen down your thoughts and present it to your sweetheart on any special ocassion, be it valentines day, his/her birthday or your anniversary. Romantic Love Messages that come straight from the heart are those priceless gifts that reach out to the recipient's heart and touch them deeply.

So, what are you waiting for? Give way to your sentiments in the form of sweet messages of love and send across to one who has stolen your heart.

 

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TO YOU ALL....

A Very Touching Story..

 A poor boy was in love with a rich man daughter….One day the boy proposed to her and the girl said…”Hey! Listen, your monthly salary is my daily hand expenses..How can I be involved with you..?

How could you have thought of that? I can never love you, so forget about me and get engaged to someone else at your level”

But somehow the boy could not forget her so easily…..Some­ time 10 years later they stumbled into each other in a shopping mall.

The lady again said….,”Hey..­ ! You! How are you? Now I’m married and do you know how much my husband’s salary is..? $15,700 per month! Can you beat that? And he is also very smart”

The guy’s eyes got wet with tears on hearing those words from the same lady….

A few seconds later, her husband came around but before the lady could say a word her husband seeing the guy, said……
“Sir you’re here and you’ve met my wife..” Then he said to his wife,”This is my boss, I’m also one of those working on his $100 million project!

And do you know a fact my dear? My boss loved a lady but he couldn’t win her heart….That’s­ why he has remained unmarried since.

How lucky would that lady have been, if she had married this my boss now? These days, who would love someone that much he said all these to his wife.

The lady looked in total shock but couldn’t utter a word….
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Life is so short and it’s just like a mirror.

You can only see as much as it reflects. So don’t be too arrogant or proud by looking down on others because of their current situations.

Things get changed with time just like the weather..! Don’t under estimate anyone because everyone has a great future!

Where you have been rejected before, you will be celebrated soon in Jesus name. Share to Inspire others, if you enjoy reading.
 
story courtesy of Nigeria's Voice copied from my shemeji's fb wall

Biblical Lessons on Relationships

Lessons from the Heart, by Bishop T.D. Jakes

The Bible, the world's most read book, sets forth the greatest story ever told. It is a love story unlike no other, underscored by the countless demonstrations of God's love for man.

The cross is one of the world's most visibly recognized icons with its vertically pointing element representing this quintessential union between God and man. It is the intersecting horizontal plane symbolizing the day-to-day relationships among humans that especially benefit from the guidance found in the "Inspired Word of God."

Read on..

1. Overcoming Our Differences in Relationships.

The art of relationships requires that a man who is very different from his woman finds common ground with her and vice versa. We are meant to balance each other by attracting people whose strengths may be our weaknesses. Together as a result of our differences and unique distinctions, we complement each other. Understanding only comes when you stand under a real desire to know, love, and comprehend the other person, embracing the uniqueness of who they are.

2. Healthy Relationships Require Emotional and Spiritual Freedom.

You often won't know what you have, let alone need, in your life until you clear the mental and emotional room to experience the here and now. We don't have to stay buried under the past or cycles of mistakes, even though it may seem insurmountable. You can move on with your life. You have to keep your mental and emotional house clean and in order. Praying, journaling, mediation, and exercise are common ways for you to be sure your emotional issues of the past aren't seeping into your current relationships.

3. It Takes Courage to Really Love Someone.

Deciding to love gets harder as you get older. It's more and more difficult to fall in love because your "faller" gets broken. We've all had relationships that didn't work out for one reason or another. The loss of a relationship can be a traumatic experience and can affect us in our lives for months and sometimes for years. You need to understand what role you played in the relationship's demise, and work to come to peace with your partner's behavior as well as your own. No matter what has happened to you, the only hope of a healthy future relationship is to let go of the past.

4. Healthy Compromise in Relationships.

Negotiating win-win possibilities in relationships often means seeing things through the eyes of the others involved in the situation or problem. In most cases of healthy compromise, both parties feel they are "right." Healthy compromise is the hallmark of healthy relationships. The Lord's peace often results when each side comes close to His viewpoint, His perfect plan for both parties. We cannot remain so entrenched in our view that we cannot change or adapt, and we must know when not to compromise too far.

5. Safeguarding Your Relationships.

In order to maximize your life and relationships, you have to minimize your load. You must focus on what's important when it comes to your relationships. Lightening your load means knowing when to release things. Most of don't realize that the key to release ourselves is within our own hands. You can move ahead and conserve your strength for things that count, things you can change, things you can control. Have the wisdom to see the importance of giving you all to your relationships today!

6. Evaluate Who You Are.

When you see yourself as valuable enough to deserve love and attention from the other person, you form a boundary that you will not compromise. A little self-esteem goes a long way in garnering the courage to ask and answer questions that reveal who you really are and what you really want. Once you look realistically at who you really are and what you desire in a healthy relationship, you are ready to enter into the research that will lead to sound decisions.

Love is never for granted..

Beautiful story.....
 

A very poor man lived with his wife...
 

One day, his wife, who had very long hair asked him to buy her a
... comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed...
 

The man felt very sorry and said, "NO" He explained that he did not even
have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken...

She did not insist on her request.. The man went to work and passed
by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for
his wife...

He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give
to his wife... He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short hair cut..

She had sold her hair and was holding a new watch band..

Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions...
but, for the reciprocity of their love...

MORAL: To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one
you love, that is EVERYTHING...

Never take love for granted...

commitment in a relationship

Commitment cannot be a single minded decision, with one partner issuing all the rules and conformities, it has to be a mutual agreement of needs and requirements in a future you want to share together, with commitment levels you present to each other open to compromise and discussion.

Pre-conceived ideas or fears about commitment is understandable and is essentially preparing you to understanding the difference between promise and commitment.

Assess and judge the relationship's progress with an honest appraisal before you attempt to discuss any commitments or the future of the relationships development. Only then can you have the desired deeper level of the relationship and share honest and fulfilling commitments to each other and nurture the relationships values. Commitment in a relationship has to be a pathway that is mutually acceptable to both of you and at levels that you can both honour and fulfil. 

1. Love and respect – for each other and your individual philosophies on life and love. Ignoring your partner’s hopes and dreams just because they may differ to yours or trying to cancel or absorb someone’s personality is neither love nor respect. A progressive growing of love and respect between two people sharing their lives but retaining their individuality is more healthy and fulfilling.

2. Loyalty – to each other and the relationship, promises of exclusive dating–some couples see this as the only commitment needed within a successful relationship, it isn’t a standalone commitment, but it still remains an ultimate commitment. Any commitments made with the absence of loyalty will appear to be nothing but hollow, broken promises. What if your partner has hinted, or even made it obvious that they have known other partners better than they know you. This could be an admission of not being sure about the depth of the relationship or a criticism of your role and actions, prompting the outspoken comparisons. If he/she has talked about, or admitted wanting to get to know other different partners better, this issue needs to be addressed to discover what has instigated these comments and desires.

3. Honesty – About your feelings, fears and insecurities, honesty about the relationship and your expectations. Revelations about your past, what you want to achieve in life, job prospects and career prospects that could affect your future together. Financial burdens or financial expectations, the issue of children, are all important decisions that you both have to make regarding the future. It is unacceptable and selfish to arrogantly think that someone can be compromised into radically changing their beliefs to suit you at a later date. This is dishonest and will be seen as outright dismissal and betrayal of individual views and feelings.

4. Spending time together – This also encompasses your personal levels of acceptable commitment to each other’s feelings and needs in the relationship. You may be perfectly happy to spend every waking moment with each other; alternatively you may be just as happy and comfortable with a more relaxed amount of time you spend in each other’s company. It does not mean the relationship is any less intimate or meaningful. Don’t be tempted to use time spent together as a template to compare with other relationships, what makes you happy is the only important issue and how much you desire to retain your independence and individuality inside the relationship.

5. Being there for each other – supporting each other through different stages of your lives, emotionally and physically, through good times and times of crisis. Emotional, practical and financial support should be a natural evolvement in any relationship and not a hardship to deliver as a commitment, strengthening the relationship with unparalleled protection and support for each other.

6. Trust – Without trust no relationship can survive, do you feel comfortable enough with the level of trust in the relationship, to admit to other relationships and why they failed without any fear of backlash or recriminations. Trusting each other when you are not together is a huge area for differences of opinion as to what is the appropriate level of trust before it becomes suspicious and obsessive jealousy. Trust levels need to be tested and established with practical aspects of the relationship, trust with finances, with children, with secrets, with family decisions and personal choices.

7. Living together - This is big, decision making, forward step in the relationship, deciding to move in together, even though you know it was a comfortable mutual decision a temporary assimilation period is inevitable, but this will be a passing phase. Hopefully, before you instigated this commitment the pro’s and con’s of moving in and living together have been discussed, and the shared financial implications and responsibilities should, sensibly, have been decided before moving in together, not after when it will be the cause of unnecessary arguments.

8. Buying property together – by the time you get to this stage in discussing further commitments of this scale, you must be comfortable with other commitments in your relationship that have been established and already working well over a long term period, because this is a big financial commitment to embark on, a joint venture that is one of the major commitments.

9. Getting engaged - Another major commitment decision, a promise of engagement used to be liable to legal consequences of a breach of contract if the engagement was broken or withdrawn. Engagement announcements are a public mutual admission of your intention to commit to each other by taking the first step towards announcing marriage intentions. Newspaper announcements make it a public notification and celebrating with family and friends confirms your commitment to each other.

10. Proposal of marriage– this is a proposed intent of the ultimate future commitment to a life together. This is proposing a legally binding contract of commitment and has legal consequences if rules are broken or abused. Marriage is a public declaration of your commitments to one person and both of you committing your life together in a ceremony of confirmation.