Too many people are in relationships where they are blaming
the other person for all their problems. Men, women, we all do it, but it's
doesn't make for a healthy relationship. Making a relationship better though,
can actually be quite simple. Ignore all the stuff that isn't really important
and concentrate on the small little things that are. A healthy relationship can
be yours, if you just follow these simple better relationship tips. You might
be surprised at what happens!
1. Don't Say Things in Anger - We've all done it.
Lost our temper in the middle of a fight with a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband
or wife and shouted something we later regret. The first tip to help get a
better relationship is simple. Don't say things in anger, because I'll
guarantee you will regret them later. Take a deep breath, calm down and, once
you're calm and had time to think, tell your partner what's really making you
angry. Surprisingly, you'll often find out it's not the thing you thought it
was, and you won't have to regret saying that it was.
2. Trust Your Partner - So many times I hear people
complaining about their relationships, and then I realize they don't trust
their partner. Never have. Without trust, a relationship will never be a
healthy one. So, until you know any different, trust that what your partner is
telling you and doing can be trusted. Men especially need to be trusted; it's
the cornerstone of any healthy relationship with a woman. Trust him, and you
could be shocked at how much healthier your relationship suddenly becomes
because, after all, if you don't trust someone, they often start to do things you
accused them of. After all, if you think they're doing it, they might as well.
Right?
3. Be Complimentary - People love compliments, but
very few of us in relationships actually give them. Men and women love
compliments so give them freely. Men especially love to get compliments as,
more than women, they very rarely receive them. Make a vow to yourself. Give
your partner a new compliment at least two or three times a week and see how
quickly your relationship will become better.
4. Stand Up To Your Partner - Don't let yourself be
trodden on or rode roughshod over by your partner. Stand up for yourself and
don't accept bad behaviour. Surprisingly, the less you put up with bad behaviour,
the less likely you are to get it. Men and women respect people who respect
themselves so stand up for yourself and your partner will respect you more too.
5. Always Think of 'We' - Too many people in
relationships think about 'me' and not 'we'. A relationship is made up of two
people. Make sure you make decisions that are healthy for both of you and your
relationship will automatically become a better one.
6. Talk to Each Other - The best relationship advice
in the world is this - talk to each other. When you've got problems or
concerns, or things just don't seem to be going right, don't talk to your
friends, talk to each other. Nobody else, except the people in the relationship
really know what's going on in it or understands what the problems are. Talk to
each other, don't hide anything, and work things out together.
7. Don't Treat Your Partner like The Enemy - So many
people treat their girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands and wives, like the
enemy. They're not. They're actually supposed to love you and you they so, if
you're treating your partner like the enemy, stop it! Treat him or her like an
ally and, unsurprisingly, they'll probably become one.
8. Talk about Your Partner the Way You Want Him/her To Be
- People usually become what we tell them they are. If we tell them they're
"stupid", "lazy", "rude", "disrespectful",
then that's what they usually become. But, if you are constantly telling them
they are "smart", "handsome", "kind" and "a
good person", fascinatingly, that's what they become. Never tell your
partner that he or she is something negative or you may get what you didn't
wish for.
9. Nagging is the Worst Thing You Can Do - Most men
who have affairs often say it's because they lived with a nagger. Nothing they
ever did was right, and most of it was wrong. Imagine going home every day and
being told exactly what you're doing wrong. It's not surprising that many men
have affairs because they want to be with someone who makes them feel good
about themselves. When you feel yourself nagging, stop it. Nagging is absolute
poison to a relationship and, besides, you married a grown-up right? So why do
you suddenly have to become his mother?
10. Spend Time Together - Too many people are so
obsessed with making money and buying stuff, they don't spend enough time with
their partner. Spend quality time every day with your partner, even if it's just
watching a TV show together, doing the dishes together, or putting the kids to
bed together. It's the little things in a healthy relationship that keep it
healthy but spending time together is a big one.
These tips are just a
few things you should do if you want to be in a healthy relationship.
Relationship advice is all very good but, if you don't follow it, or don't
treat your partner like a human being then your relationship will fail.
A better relationship
can be just as easy as being kind, respectful and complimentary, and being your
partner's friend. What's really sad is many of us treat our partners worse than
we treat our friends. Think about how you treat your best friend and start
treating your partner the same way and your relationship could be a healthy one
in no time.
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